Even When We Know Better Yet We Think Negatively -
Why?
Why do we think negatively
when we know better?
Because thinking negatively, expecting “the worst,” seeing the downside of
positive situations, and even downright expecting failure, all convey a kind of
backwards-thinking, emotional insurance policy. It goes something like,
“If I expect a tragedy, then I won’t be disappointed when it takes place.”
Of course, this is NOT what we truly want or need in our lives. So how
can we stop talking ourselves into these thinking traps? Let’s take a
look at two powerful ways to quiet the negative inner voice that leads us
astray:
1. Start focusing on the grey area between the extremes.
Life simply isn’t black or white – 100% of this or 100% of that – all or
nothing.
Thinking in extremes like this is a fast way to misery, because negative thinking tends to view any situation that’s less than perfect as being extremely bad.
For example:
Rather than the rainstorm
slowing down my commute home from work, instead “it wasted my whole evening and
ruined my night!”
Rather than just accepting the nervousness of meeting a new group of people, “I know these people are not going to like me.”
Since 99.9% of all situations in life are less than perfect, black and white thinking tends to make us focus on the negative – the drama, the failures, and the worst case scenarios.
Sure catastrophes occur on occasion, but contrary to what you may see on the evening news, most of life occurs in a grey area between the extremes of bliss and devastation.
2. Stop looking for negative signs from others.
Too often we jump to conclusions, only to cause ourselves and others
unnecessary worry, hurt, and anger.
If someone says one thing, don’t assume they mean something else. If they say nothing at all, don’t assume their silence has some hidden, negative connotation.
Thinking negatively will inevitably lead you to interpret everything another person does as being negative, especially when you are uncertain about what the other person is thinking.
For instance, “He hasn’t called, so he must not want to talk to me,” or, “She only said that to be nice, but she doesn’t really mean it.”
Assigning meaning to a situation before you have the whole story makes you more likely to believe that the uncertainty you feel (based on lack of knowing) is a negative sign.
On the flip-side, holding off on assigning meaning to an incomplete story is a primary key to overcoming negative thinking.
When you think more positively, or simply more clearly about the facts, you’ll be able to evaluate all possible reasons you can think of, not just the negative ones.
In other words, you’ll be doing more of: “I don’t know why he hasn’t called yet, but maybe... he’s actually extremely busy at work today.”
Being able to distinguish between what you imagine and what is actually happening in your life is an important step towards living a happier life.
On the Success with Dr. Jerry - the First Platform, we guide interested persons through this mindset shift as a fundamental daily ritual for creating lasting progress, peace and happiness.
This is an active practice of taking life day by day and being more in tune with what is. It's about not getting caught up in what you can’t control, but instead accepting it and making the best of it. Because, when you stop fantasizing and worrying about what you can't control, you have more energy to change the things you can control. And that changes everything rather quickly
If you find yourself in the situation just discussed, just know that we are one email away and we will always get back to you.
Be blessed
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The funny thing about assigning negative meaning to most things is that it drains you of the little energy you have and makes you unhappy. Before you have a negative view or conclusion about something especially when you don't know what is going on at the other end, consider your mental health and the implications it will have on you. New week motivation from Topiconic Challange, always with positive vibes
ReplyDeleteMost of the time we act on assumptions and that limits us
DeleteIf only we can understand that the other person is human too, prone to making the same mistakes as us, it will help us a lot
DR.DENNIS EKWEDIKE: People think negatively due to lack of information and awareness. The consequences are dire and the energy and manhour lost are mind boggling. We can think positively when we stop looking for negative signs from others and equally focus on the grey areas in between the extremes.
ReplyDeleteNegativity - that is the default setting of our mindset
DeleteWe need to make conscious effort to turn the hands of the clock and it is what we need a mindset reset for
Well spelt out Dr Jerry the First!
ReplyDeleteNegative Mindset is at the core or is the foundation for the problem of many people in our world today.
In line with what the renowned Dr Joe Dispenza (A US. Quantam Mechanics Authority) always teaches, the energy you emit to the world is what you always get under return (and in abundance) whether good or bad. You want Growth? Joy? Money? Think of it often and believe you've got it already and it'll come to you easily. You think of Pain? Hatred? Lack? It comes to you more abundantly.
This life is crazily simple if you just apply simple principles I discovered. lolz
Everything living is an energy field and things around are always in motion and as the law states - what a man sows, that shall he reap - it is so in energy exchanges too
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